"God doesn't like you"

[Leslie Nelsen]

:sad: Why would someone ever say this? Ugh! This is clearly a venting post.

Eliana had therapy today and the topic of cooking came up. I said that I didn't like to cook and yet I have several (3 to date) that have food issues. The therapist then looked at me and said "God doesn't like you". I was stunned and didn't say anything. Her next comment was "She is out to get you." :eyes:

I then said something to the effect that God was certainly challenging me and helping me to grow.

I'm sure she was teasing, although she didn't laugh or smile with either comment.

I don't feel like I can say or do much more than this in these situations. Having so many people involved in our life sometimes is just a challenge to juggle. Can I say that this comment frustrates me?!

Now, I KNOW it isn't true. God loves me completely. Things are not happening to me or my children because He is out to get me. None of that is Biblical. I still don't like hearing it though. Not sure why I'm sharing - maybe just needing a hug. :group:

Love you all - and GOD LOVES YOU TOO! :group:

[TonyaP]

I would say that the one true God has just let you know through this exchange that your therapist doesn't know Him. Hopefully in due time the opportunity for you to witness to this person will arise.

[rachelmn]

Aw, I'm sorry. I agree with you and I think she was teasing, in a dry way, but that sure doesn't make it easy or right. :group:

Love you dear friend, and know you are deeply loved by us and most of all by GOD, who calls you daughter!!!:group::group::group::group:

[Shelly in MN]

Oh, Leslie. :group: :sad:

I see this as an obtuse declaration from somebody who has been blinded by the god of this world.

[Hollie in SC]

:group: God ADORES you! :group:

[Gwen in Texas]

I'm sorry, sweetie. :group: She clearly wasn't doing her job well today, was she? And she doesn't seem to know you or God very well either. I wonder if she goes through life feeling like God doesn't like her? What a sad way to live. I'm sorry discouragement came from such a surprising source. I'm glad you know The Truth! :group:

[Sue C]

:group: God gives His most special gifts to those who can handle them. :) Obviously this therapist doesn't know Him. I'm sorry that she said that to you. I think all of us with special needs kids have been hurt by others. Who knows how God will use you in her life. Just know that God loves YOU and chose YOU to raise his most precious gifts!!!!! :group:

[Rachel Jane]

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[Linda]

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[Michele WV]

:group: I love you, Leslie, and am thankful that you know how much God loves you, too. I'm sorry for the discouragement that sneaks in in the most unexpected places. I know it must be a challenge, it would be for me. Wish I could hug you in person:group:

[Rachel Jane]

The more I think about this, the more I think she was projecting how she feels onto you. I am NOT saying it was okay for her to say it, but I suspect she feels unloved. :sad:

:group: to you and I hope seeing all of your sweet children playing in your home allows you to feel that love.

[Alice R]

THAT IS A HORRIBLE THING TO SAY. HORRIBLE. DISGUSTING. OFFENSIVE. HURTFUL. SHE COULD BE REPORTED. SHE SHOULD NOT BE WORKING WITH CHILDREN OR FAMILIES. THAT IS SICK. SICK. SICK.

My clinical psychologist friend has an EXCELLENT answer for these stupid things that people say.

he says:

"that is not OK to say to me"

It stops them dead in their tracks.

Of course you feel hurt. That is a terrible thing to say. I'm am totally shocked that someone would say something like that.

Honestly, if I could, I'd switch therapists. I can't work with people like that...mean and rude all mixed together. How can she work well with Eliana?

I'm glad you could come here and we can give you a big :group: God loves you very much and anything other than that is garbage.

[Alice R]

Anyone who says something like that has some serious mental problems.

You need a new therapist.

[DD in IL]

Just to add to what has already been said....I would be tempted to tell her that you are certain GOD does love you and trust you to the care of HIS children because HE knew you were the best one for the job. However, when you say those things to me even kidding it hurts me and I could use encouragement. I certainly hope she does not say these things in front of your children.....teasing or not.

[rachelmn]

THAT IS A HORRIBLE THING TO SAY. HORRIBLE. DISGUSTING. OFFENSIVE. HURTFUL. SHE COULD BE REPORTED. SHE SHOULD NOT BE WORKING WITH CHILDREN OR FAMILIES. THAT IS SICK. SICK. SICK.

My clinical psychologist friend has an EXCELLENT answer for these stupid things that people say.

he says:

"that is not OK to say to me"

It stops them dead in their tracks.

Of course you feel hurt. That is a terrible thing to say. I'm am totally shocked that someone would say something like that.

Honestly, if I could, I'd switch therapists. I can't work with people like that...mean and rude all mixed together. How can she work well with Eliana?

I'm glad you could come here and we can give you a big :group: God loves you very much and anything other than that is garbage.

I love you Alice!:kiss: Yes, she said it very well Leslie I agree 100%!:group:

[Lisalyn]

I'm sorry, sweetie. :group: She clearly wasn't doing her job well today, was she? And she doesn't seem to know you or God very well either. I wonder if she goes through life feeling like God doesn't like her? What a sad way to live. I'm sorry discouragement came from such a surprising source. I'm glad you know The Truth! :group:


Agreeing with Gwen (and the others). Way out of line and most likely a sad testimony of her beliefs. :sad:

I know it hurt, but I'm glad you know better!
:group:

[Leslie Nelsen]

:group: Thank you friends for your encouragment and hugs. :group: I love you all.

This therapist is really good. She really knows what she is doing and has not said unkind things like this in the past. I think that is part of why I was so stunned.

I'm thankful for all of you!

Love

[AmyinWI]

agreeing with Alice! If nothing else- it was totally unprofessional!!

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[Alice R]

[QUOTE=Leslie Nelsen;699691
This therapist is really good. She really knows what she is doing and has not said unkind things like this in the past. I think that is part of why I was so stunned.
[/QUOTE]

With a comment like that, this is who she really is and how she really thinks. She let you take a peak into her true thoughts. I'd watch her.

That comment is beyond disturbing. It's sadistic. She knew she was hurting you and she enjoyed that. Normal people don't act like that.

Watch her...

[Ernestine]

I would let her know this is not her session time but yours!!

For her to say that she must think it about herself.
Since you know the Truth maybe you should be sitting on her side of the desk.

She needs help because she passed that along towards another and she needs to know God's love. Looks like an opportunity.

So show her and then send her a bill.


Sincerely,
Ernestine

[Jill S]

What an awful thing to say! I'm so sorry you had to hear that. I'm glad you know the Truth; I'm sorry she doesn't. :group: :group:

[AshleyS]

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How sad that this is her view of The Lord!!!

I'm so sorry that you had to hear this--it would have definitely upset me if someone said this to me!

[Sue C]

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How sad that this is her view of The Lord!!!
!

Exactly my thoughts!!!!! What is going on in her own life? I think as much as this was wrong on her part and hurt you it can be used as a true example of Christ love. For her to see you not blaming God but loving Him who gave you all that you have and trusting Him. Who knows what might happen. I think she is a hurting soul.

[SheilaB]

:group: Maybe it has something to do with the fact that she thinks God is a "she". ;)

[carriejoy]

Aw honey!

I'll be praying for you to find favor with this therapist, that the complete JOY you have in your children that SO CLEARLY radiates here (even when you're having a hard day!) will just SHINE!!!!

We are known by our LOVE for our brothers and sisters in Christ. You have such great, great love for the bitty souls in your care! Praying that she sees that.

Now, I also want to encourage you on a couple of things:
1. Think up some answers NOW for those types of situations! (sort of like the bean dip for homeschooling thing!)
2. Ask the Lord to show you evidence of his favor on you that you can enthusiastically share (or that your sweet girl may share!)
3. Ask the Lord for a spirit of boldness and not fear or timidity in these situations.
4. Consider refreshing her memory on the statement and giving her some of that evidence that God in fact REALLY likes you! Let her know that it is a DIFFERENT god that doesn't like you and is out to get you. This could be done light heartedly in conversation, or in a card or whatever.

You are amazing, amazing, amazing! I don't think we'll get the time on this earth to just chat and be carefree together, but Leslie, I surely hope that part of Heaven includes some sweet tea with you!

[tracy]

Hi Leslie ~
Well it sounds like your great therapist has a crappy sense of humor. Or is socially deficient. You bring a breathe of fresh air into her week and she is blown away. So she tries to chide you to throw you off your kilter.

I think I would have responded to her comment: "HA! I don't believe God is a woman because He doesn't hold grudges. Thankfully every day is a new day. And oh by the way where do you go to church?" :) (said in the sweetest, most sincere voice)

It would have been better if she would have said something like: 'cooking is not all that it is cracked up to be. Thank goodness for dining out. I am sorry you are feeling overwhelmed right now.'

But really, some people can be so smart they are just so stupid. Sorry you got hurt by stupidity. :(

Hugs to you from across the country. :kiss:

[debbie in ak]

Leslie---God totally is crazy about you...read this post (http://unafamiliaalaskena.blogspot.com/2009/08/did-you-know-that.html)!

[julia]

He is out to "get" you...Get you right where you are supposed to be!!!
Thankfully you obviously know to praise Him in all things!!!

[Victoria]

THAT IS A HORRIBLE THING TO SAY. HORRIBLE. DISGUSTING. OFFENSIVE. HURTFUL. SHE COULD BE REPORTED. SHE SHOULD NOT BE WORKING WITH CHILDREN OR FAMILIES. THAT IS SICK. SICK. SICK.

My clinical psychologist friend has an EXCELLENT answer for these stupid things that people say.

he says:

"that is not OK to say to me"

It stops them dead in their tracks.

Of course you feel hurt. That is a terrible thing to say. I'm am totally shocked that someone would say something like that.

Honestly, if I could, I'd switch therapists. I can't work with people like that...mean and rude all mixed together. How can she work well with Eliana?

I'm glad you could come here and we can give you a big :group: God loves you very much and anything other than that is garbage.

I agree too!! :yes:

[Leslie Nelsen]

Thank you friends. :hcry: :group:

You have all given me a lot to think about. I appreciate the encouragment and prayers and hugs.

You are right. It is not something that should have been said. Of course, I could think of things to say later - but was just so stunned when it happened.

We will not be seeing this therapist much longer as Eliana will age out of this program in December so our time with her is short. I know I will need to be praying before our time together so that I can speak truth when I can and be bold if I need to be. (Not an easy thing for me to do with her at all.)

Debbie - loved your blog post. Thank you! :hcry:

I love you all and wish I could give you all real hugs.

[KayH]

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[Cori~OR]

She has a chip on her shoulder about God. Perhaps she's defensive about your beliefs as I'm sure you shine through to her.

However, I do agree with Alice that it's completely unprofessional to mention something so personal to a patient. NOT OK at all.

A friend might say something like this and if I knew that friend well, I would know it's coming from their own background/hurts/etc.

I really wouldn't know what to do about it.

:group:

[Katie]

That WOULD be hard to hear, Leslie...even if you know it's not true. I'm so thankful you and I know that God loves us so very much!!! \o/

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[ChristineM]

Not only does God love you and is there for you but He has blessed your little ones by giving them a challenge He knew they could handle and another couldn't. I have two little ones with special challenges that God entrusted to them knowing they would not only succeed despite their challenges but it would prepare them for a special job He has only for them. And He made you their mother knowing you would prepare them for their special job! Take heart - God knows what He is doing and He will perfect His work in you and your kids!!